Life In A Hospital~Some Reflections & Lessons!

Our forefathers probably didn't see a hospital in their lives but our generations life begins there and ends there. The first lap for them was their mothers while today's millennial was a the trained nurses in the labor room. It was then either at home or in the forest with or without delivery team. They were delicate and soft probably with closed eyes yet they grew strong and lived 100. The millennial was just opposite with open eyes to wink to the nurses and looked healthy yet it is hard for us to make through 60s. It was more of natural birth and healthy life they lived through unlike us in era of chemicals and drugs. We are the most advanced and comfortable generation to live on earth with the sophisticated technology today yet neither technology nor God is able to make humans most wished goal to live healthy and long possible. This is the irony of life.

Thus, one is sure to visit the hospitals atleaset thrice in a life time even if one is healthy and strong. Some unfortunate ones live most of thier lives in hospitals with uncertain illness or fateful accidents. For them, the wards become thier home and the health professionals working there become their family. I had the privilege to born on my mother's lap not in hospital but I couldn't escape the fate of hospital wards both as a patient and an attendants to my family. As a patient one goes through the stages of healing and new life again and as an attendant one goes through the reflections phases and realization.

There is another hope of life when you recover and rise from the bed. The gratitude and thankfulness you owe to the doctors and nurses swells in your heart and they simple take it through your recovering faces. The doctor-patient relationships is simply the communication of silence. The most fulfilling moment of doctors and nurses are when their patients recover back to life and the worst is when some unfortunate ones breathe their last on their laps. The routine continues and life goes on. Their noble job of 24 hours service to the human lives is simply unmatched with rest of the jobs. 

Their patience for patients is the test of their mental toughness and the professionalism they display. Since they are treating sick person not a normal human being which are bound to abnormal reactions and abusive nature of patients sometimes. The attendants may also out of frustration abuse the staffs and often the blame game of carelessness surfaces if patient dies despite their best efforts. The disabled and mental patients are more challenging to handle. What if one gets an emergency call at midnight or early hour 2:00 am call? The health professionals can't deny because they don't want their patients to die. 

To see all these affairs one has to be a patient or an attendant but only few see it to appreciate and rejoice the life. Because nobody wants to come hospital but they want to live healthy. It is not their choice but the result of open secret of unhealthy diet. If this is a place where life starts and the place must be life inspiring than place of despair instead. Whether one is sick or not, the place is of worship and life thriving. The prayers are heard more in hospitals than in church or temples because both the patients and health professionals put in their actions for life process. The touch (physical check) of a doctors and nurses to their sick patients heals more than by the medicine they prescribed them. Further, the soft words or communication with the patients simply does miracles because the humans are more mental and emotional than physical. Thier emotional response is more powerful than physical in recovery aspects. I have heard and seen the stern nurses and doctors but they do the best treatment among the professionals.

Health and education are given the utmost priority in any nation and Bhutan is no exception. We are fortunate to have life long free health services. Thanks to our visionary Monarchs and the government. When we have the top priority service it is definitely one of the  best services we are getting yet many don't agree because they feel it is one sided service. Their mandate is to get a token and be in a queue unless serious but we loose patience to wait. After sometimes, the queue gets broken and we start rushing. The queue continues from 9:00 am till 3: 00 pm and just imagine the load one person is taking inside the chamber. The services would be best served if both the party gets into each other's shoe sometimes. 

If you are not an OPD patient, you get to live the service they provide inside the ward right from food to your medicine. I can say we have the best nurses/GNM/HA and support staffs in the wards where ever I stayed as a patient or an attendant.  I recall my first NS drop at Damphu hospital where my father was attending me day and night. There my life was hanging in each drop of the Normal Saline. I was literally bed ridden for a week and hardly move. I used to attend myself at night gazing at each drop of NS after my dad falls asleep on the floor below my bed. I was making sure that no blood from my body should flow back to the NS bottle- the common misconception then. So, I used to let my father's Kera-belt loose down to his face to wake him up and call the nurse to change it. After I was referred to JDWNRH in Thimphu, I had a sound sleep as there were more staffs to take care of the patients. I miss those three times meal on time. We have no proper meal time at home which is killing us slowly. If we are to follow the hospital and monasteries meal time, we would invite less diseases.

It is a relieving moment to see the staffs taking the charge of their respective shifts duty from thier colleagues  in morning or evening. They make sure that patients history and medication for recovery are not taken for granted. The next moment comes more curious when doctors visit each patient to see thier progress. Some patients eagerly waiting for their discharge to rush home like they got freedom from prison. And that is the moment where they show thier hidden manner to stand or atleast sit on patients's tool after they wake from the vacant bed available next to the patient. Some attendants are mistaken for patients when doctors find them in deep sleep without medical prescription history on the edge of the bed. An innocent village attendant gets a call in a loud ring tone and he receives with louder response to the caller. The doctor and his staffs stand astonished when they were busy discussing the patients history. The nurse asks him to go out and attend and he is guided to the washroom to continue attending his call. There was a critical patient with soaring body temperature and fever which might invite convulsion. The brother ask the attendant to sponge his forehead to body trying to explain the consequences but the attendant was busy in phone. The long call ends and brother asks her to sponge the sick son. The mother replies , " let me finish my rosary beads count". Brother smiles and digest his frustration with compassion.

Despite free three times meal to the patients and to some attendants yet we expect our friends and relatives residing nearby by to drop delicious meals. We focus on taste not in healthy diet which is an open crime against oneself. We are what we eat and we know least about eating right food and quantity. We all know we eat to live not live to eat yet food is the least concern we give. We have probably forgotten what the hunger is because we have forgotten what life is too. Thus, no food serves it purpose. We have to clean this mental mess. 

The housekeeping is next to food in the hospital if any one of us have observed it. One can see the staffs cleaning the ward twice in a day-mopping and wet cleaning. However, as we reach the wash rooms and toilet areas, it is common to observe that those places are again neglected as Chaplop Passu sir always mentions and he has a beautiful message about toilet culture in Bhutan in his PaSsu Diary page. When it comes to the toilet culture we are poor in its management right from the space design to housekeeping. One would find only the door sized room toilet and healthy sized man would find himself suffocated. The flush tank would either be nonfunctional or missing in many cases. The only water connected to the toilet has its tap sticked to the wall just to fit in the small jug below. 

The worst part is people don't flush it properly be it in wards or public toilet. I wonder, if they do same in their home. This is a serious lack of self discipline. People don't leave even to spit the chewing doma in the pot and walls they come across. The floors are often cleaned but we neglect the walls and corners with spiders web around. The window panes are stained with either doma spit or tobacco leaves. So, what you do when you are sharing such toilets or washrooms? We have no other option than to clean it ourselves and make it homely. One need to involve in the act to get the result. Many won't understand and they lack simple discipline of life and they just leave it to others. The rest areas in hospitals or offices are all as per 5S policy except toilets. The area where we are supposed to keep cleanest is the dirtiest. It is bad. This area needs to be seriously looked into for clean Bhutan.  




The Tourist Within by Tshering Denkar

 

The Tourist Within by Tshering Denkar is about the amusing and thrilling stories of travel, nature, culture & tradition and some history of Bhutan. The book is divided into three chapters of Moments, Faces and Places. The author has put her persuasive story telling aptitude to hook the readers in every story until they complete the book. The narrative stories of her travel are inspiring and the documentary information of the places are truly enlightening. 

The first chapter takes us through her beautiful journey right from how it all began. The author reflects inner calling of her passion into reality when she was asked, 'How is the world outside?' by her inmate student in Thailand. She then decided to come back home and explore Bhutan as a first female solo travel blogger & vlogger.

Her first solo trip to Phobjikha in Wangdue would make us engrossed in the story where she meets crane Karma all by himself with his own reflection in the mirror. Coincidently the author begins her travel odyssey from the prison cell of this injured Karma and of her students back in Thailand. Her travel dream gets birth in the closed cells for herself and to the world outside. The Bhutanese belief of stepping in the heap of cow-dung came true for Tshering Denkar when she first set her foot on the valley of cranes. 

The stories from hitch-hiking in Doyas village in Samtse in the south to walking up the snowcapped mountains in the north would make us mesmerized. Many of us would be surprised to know that we have one of the highest unclimbed mountains in the world-the Gankar Puensum. Will it remain virgin as it is in future or are we curious to explore it? Well the present status may carry more value than later. There, we have the world’s most expensive fungus plant called Cordyceps Sinensis (yartsa guenbub) which fetches about Nu.1.5 million to Nu.2.7 million per kg.

Likewise, the travel stories of Haa in the west to Merak in the east would never make you bore but keeps on rousing. Many of us would know more about our own home town and places after this book. For example, I was never aware of how my district town got her name Damphu having spent all my teenage years till high school graduation to this date. Thanks to Denkar’s Gateway. The hike to the most visited Tiger Nest-Paro Taktshang would make many of you nostalgic and of course remind the spiritual journey of one’s life. The toilet in the bush with 360° view of nature is to laugh your lungs out and for me it was a cowboy vertical view memory from a tree top and the sharp edge huge rock. Toilet culture in Bhutan is yet to be worked out right from homes to institutions to public toilets. It is a sad reality that many of us might have just left to the wet sweepers in public toilets to our baby sitters at home until we did ourselves in some foreign lands for few dollars. Thanks to Bhutan Toilet Organization for taking the right path.

The second chapter is more stimulating with the people she met and inspired more in her journey. One should be fortunate enough and brilliant to get the individual royal audience by His Majesty the King which she made it with her works. Isn’t it amazing to hear the stories of travel and other golden words from our own God Father? Many would live the dream of seeing His Majesty in person and this book brings you closer to the dreams of every Bhutanese. She also shares the brief moment with our Great Fourth.

Further, the inspiring stories of Denakar’s Gateway will never keep your eyes off every page you flip and wish the book continues. The story of Nomad Kencho and Tashi would melt your hearts that they are the ones who are keeping the culture of Yak herding and guarding the mountains in the fast paced world of modernization in capital city and other parts of the country. Her local travels would inspire many to explore the nearby places rather than dreaming for far foreign places. All places on earth are equally beautiful in its own way until we explore it passionately. We always think more of outside and seldom visit our inside nature. We have blessed pilgrims’ sites and temples yet people wants to travel far and out for more blessings. We have beautiful places to visit yet we want to take a luxurious vacation trips to some foreign lands. This book will definitely help us in turning inside rather than outside for our basic goal in life is to see within ourselves and live the life.

The last chapter will bring you more stories of places and its history. You will travel with Denkar to all the corners of Bhutan where many of us have not even explored our own hometown. The stories of freezing mountains in the north to the scorching plains to the south will bring you more present history of Bhutan than what a past history you read in your primary to high school. When we talk about history, the least heed we give it to because we were misguided that the subject is only for the Arts students. But one should realize our life is history in making and at least our children would read it if not others.

The stories of places should make us feel proud of how the places are named and its historical legacies that we live today. Her stories would attract more tourist and help boost the tourism industry in future for our economy but what is more important is that how every Bhutanese got to preserve and continue the legacy of beautiful Bhutan. Where would be the next cleanest village in our country next to Khetokha? Aren’t we excited to create another such village, community, town, for the high end tourism country? List are long for all of us to explore and her work would definitely encourage local tourism and you may come across the new word and subject called Dark Tourism and Waddling Tour.

This book is master piece of travel literature for those who want to explore Bhutan but no less piece of art to the blogger, writers, authors, historians, nature lover, environmentalist, so on. While the book sounds bit touristic but it has more insight to nature and environment than mere travel and history. Her stories of climbing the mountains and melting glaciers lake, there is a message to the world, how climate change is affecting the small tiny Himalayan Kingdom of Bhutan.   

The book undoubtedly shall promote tourism through the stories of our unique traditions and culture right from food to dress code. The local tourism may boom sooner or later. The book is must for every tourist guide and I am sure there won’t be any facetious stories our guide has to tell the tourist like someone did for the Mebar Tsho- the burning lake in Bumthang valley. It inspires the film industry to make the documentary films may be the Mountain Girl or relevant movies from the stories.

The aboriginals Lhops (Doyas) community from the south to the nomads in the north are few realities of culture and traditions as tiny Kingdom embraces the ever changing world of 21st century. The other minorities culture right from mother tongue to food is already in the verge of dying and this book is the reminder for all of us to hold on to our culture and tradition for Gross National Happiness. The rate at which Bhutanese leaving for greener pastures in foreign lands are alarming and will our children ever continue to stay back home and uphold these values, traditions and culture? Let this book be a guide lesson to our children and to the leaders.

I found my own passion subject in the very first page of the first chapter of the book and I guarantee bird lovers would never regret this book as you will find the location check list of rare birds like Beautiful Nuthatch to critically endangered White-bellied Heron. The birders would find more birding hotspots through the stories like in Jigmechu in Tala and Dewathang in the east.

The Tourist Within shall inspire and motivate countless mind especially the women across the country and around the globe for breaking the barriers of woman in the kitchen mindset society. The men will be equally motivated. The very title of the book itself is liberating for many. For example, our human nature is always outside centric and not inside. The wise are the ones who seeks themselves first and outer world later. The book also reminds us of the royal vison of Bhutan First and His Majesty’ quote, “We must breathe Bhutan”. The book will definitely inspire thousands of souls beyond Bhutan.

I have visited number of places from the book and I would take my family and loved ones for sure in future and add to my travel list. I am passing this great book to my wife and my daughters. You can also gift it to your children.

 


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